New Postcard!

Hey everybody! 

First off, thanks for reading, and thanks to all of you who comment. It makes my day to know so many people read the blog and are spreading the word. I’m glad there are so many nice people coming together to pay it forward!

Second: I have finished and am distributing a new postcard! This one is based on one of my first posts: Wipe the Seatie Sweetie! I get so tired of urine-speckled toilet seats. YUCK YUCK YUCK! Weren’t we all taught to clean up after ourselves, I mean really???!!!!  Anywho, I hope you enjoy this one. I’m working on a series of twelve or more, so stay tuned!

Wipe the Seatie Sweetie
Wipe the Seatie Sweetie

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Driving Do’s and Don’ts Part 2

Here’s part 2 of my driving do’s and don’ts. These are general things one can do or avoid to be considerate drivers.

Tip #1:      Since when are you so important? Don’t cut people off–it’s rude, it induces road rage, and it is dangerous. Even if someone is dying or a baby is about to be born, it would be a bigger shame if you never made it there because you got in a wreck or you ran someone over because of your rushed driving.

Tip #2:      Remember what it’s like to be on foot. Stop before crosswalks and give pedestrians right of way. To the pedestrians: a little hustle or jog through a crosswalk when there is traffic waiting to go through is always considerate (& if it comes to a showdown, you’ll probably lose). Also, use the crosswalks rather than crossing the street just anywhere.

Tip #3:      To bicyclers: if you are in traffic, you are like a car. Running red lights is hazardous and wrong. If you are on the sidewalk, you should stop at every intersection. Once a biker zoomed out into a crosswalk going 15 mph when I had a green light and was turning right. It was impossible to see him coming, and I nearly ran him over. Not cool.

Tip #4:      Don’t text while driving. Ever. Period.

Tip #5:      Can’t the call wait? Ten years ago most of us did without cell phones just fine. My lord, how did we ever keep all that information inside until we got to a landline?! People that talk on their phone while driving often drive too slow, too fast, forget to signal, weave in traffic, run red lights, and so on.  Best not to do it or keep it to emergencies only. Besides, you miss a lot of interesting scenery when you are distracted or “double-tasking.”

Tip #6:      Emergency Alertness:  check mirrors and keep music at a reasonable volume so you can see and hear emergency vehicles.

Tip #7:      Shoulders are for breakdowns or for friends to lean on (tee hee!). Don’t pass on the shoulder or use it to get to an exit. That’s a surefire way to get side-swiped.

Tip #8:      Show some respect. In some communities, a funeral procession warrants people pulling over and stopping as it passes to show respect for the loved ones of the deceased (as in, “What I have going on is of no importance in the face of your loss and your grief.”). If this isn’t a tradition in your community, you should be aware of it (and hopefully honor it) in the places to which you travel.


© Be Nice. Creator and Be Nice. (, 2008-2009.

She needed a Be Nice. card

While I was in LA last week, I only encountered one real occurrence of rudeness. We were running late and needed to get our bags from the bellman of the hotel, who had unfortunately gone missing. I asked the concierge, James, if he could get our bags so we wouldn’t miss our flight back to the east coast. He left to get the key and when he asked my friend for our baggage ticket, a woman who was in town for the same conference as me stepped in and said, “I need my luggage.” James said he needed to get our bags first and she responded snidely,  “I’ve been waiting here longer than anyone else and should be waited on first. I’m already ridiculously late!”  She had not been waiting longer than us, but we both kept tight lipped as James bewilderingly left to get her bags. She left with a smile and without offering him a tip. Then he returned to get our things.

Though I was ready to give her one of my pamphlets, I decided to forgo the opportunity since it would have caused us further delay and further stress for James. Let’s hope she figures out how to be a little nicer next time.

When we get impatient, I think it is important to remember that we don’t know the situation of those beside us and should always consider that they might be in an even greater hurry than we happen to be. This was definitely the case that night and poor James (who was not the bellman in the first place) was put in an uncomfortable position because of it.


© Be Nice. Creator and Be Nice. (, 2008-2009.

Phones and planes don’t mix, man

I flew to LA today. I’m here right now. It’s sunny, and I like it (compared to the chill of the Northeast). And despite the fact that I am woozy from the cold medicine I’m on and the fact that the pressure in my left ear has not left me in the last six hours, I am going to venture into this post hoping it will make sense. (Cue breath of confidence. And…)

The flight attendant says not to use digital devices like cell phones until further notice. And I look over to my right five hours later and there’s a guy sitting there tapping away at his cell phone. Now yes, we had landed but they hadn’t said to us that these devices were okay since we were still roaming the runways looking for our gate. I mean, come on! I know it might not be harmless, but you never know, especially if 30 other folks have the same idea as this guy. What might this do to the equipment? Are we really this impatient? Wait five minutes!  Show some respect for simple, harmless, in-place-for-a-reason rules!

Okay, I’m done! Cheers!


© Be Nice. Creator and Be Nice. (, 2008-2009.

What is this tube in my belly & where did my appendix go?

In “Thank You Dr. So-And-So,” I mentioned the importance of paying respect/courtesy to our medical professionals…..  After spending a large amount of time in and out of a hospital this last month interacting with doctors, I have to say that many, but not all, doctors need to return the favor.

I know they spend years studying and that many things are boring and old-hat to them, but to the patient the issues are serious and a tremendous concern. Disregarding questions and concerns with a shrug or an irritated look is not only rude and insensitive, it is irresponsible and disrespectful. Who knows what a doctor might learn if they gave the patient a chance to speak? If they didn’t treat the patient like they didn’t know anything?

Many patients like to know what the doctors outside the hospital room are saying to each other about the patient’s case when on their rounds. Why not give them that option? Why do patients have to ask over and over for test results, for answers, for basic post-op care instructions?  This can be a problem with “bedside manner” or this can be administrative and commuicative error.  Either way, it would make the world a nicer place with a little more patience and information.


© Be Nice. Creator and Be Nice. (, 2008-2009.

Be Nice. is on Facebook

Hi folks!

Be Nice.  has a page on Facebook. Click here to see it. If you want to search for it, it is not a “group” but rather a “page”!  Hope to see it gain some fans!



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Bigger… Better….

I like to be nice to everyone that I can. I make a point of getting know the familiar faces in my life. I have a growing rapport with the guy at the gas station, the clerks at the grocery store, the guy at the Wine store, the waiter at my favorite diner, Maria at the bank, Jason our postal carrier, Krystal, Mary and Donnie at the gym, the gals at the fabric store, the staff at the art supply store, Jen at the camera store, and the workers at the post office.

These relationships have been built over time through consistently pleasant exchanges in which I seek to relate to these folks in a way that surpasses a concern with what they can do for me as their customer.  I sincerely ask how their day is, I tell them excitedly about my new projects (to include them in my life/activities), I make chitchat about normal, superficial things. It’s hard to stay indifferent to someone who is upbeat and positive, who is taking a specific interest in relating to you. And typically, I can engage them in a conversation and walk away knowing that perhaps their day is a little less mundane and a little brighter. Mine  is certainly sunnier.

But there’s an added benefit to all this: my world is bigger. My days are  better. All my routine tasks become invigorating experiences. If I am having a bad day, I could run to the store and see one of the workers I know and have a better attitude after talking with them a bit.  

When you reach out positively to others, people are naturally inclined to help you and/or respond nicely in return. When you form mini-relationships with those people that are in the background of your daily routine, the events of the day are more interesting, more rewarding and enjoyable.


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