Amicable Allegory #4: meat market

I had a great series of great days this last weekend. Everyone seemed to be in a pleasant mood. I went shopping for much-needed wardrobe items (something I don’t like to do for sure is shop), and even there I had a great time and was surrounded by lovely people, great conversations and manners, manners, manners! Yay!

What was really great was when I went to the grocery store that evening, and my fiance and I decided to buy some italian sausages from the case for dinner. The woman behind the counter was busy trying to get the meats put away, and I imagined it must have been a long day if she was finally at the end of it. So, when we had told her that we needed something from the case, I asked (smiling as always), “How are you?” and she just lit up and said, “I’m good, thank you!” And after a tiny little exchange of pleasantries, she said, “I sure wish all my customers were as pleasant as you are!” 

Isn’t that nice? What a wonderful reward for both of us–a smile for her and me, and we both felt appreciated for something we did!

🙂

 

© Be Nice. Creator and Be Nice. (somethingsonice.wordpress.com), 2008-2009.

Say Nice Things Day

In honor of my new Facebook page for Be Nice., I have created an event called “Say Nice Things Day.” I scheduled it for February 3rd, 2009. I don’t know if there is already an official day for this sort of idea (I’m sure there probably is), but I think this is the kind of thing we should do everyday anyways!

Have you ever thought something nice, but didn’t say it? Perhaps you don’t know the person, or maybe you figure they don’t care. You may have thought they knew it already, or you got in a tiff recently and you didn’t want them to think they won because you said something nice. I figure that I’ve got something to offer in my kind thoughts, and it is the other person’s job to take it or leave it. But either way, I’ve done my job of passing it on, paying it forward. Saying kind words when you think them can make a tremendous difference in a person’s day. They probably didn’t know that they (fill in the blank). Sometimes a kind word manages to come my way right around the time that I was doubting that very thing. And then my confidence is boosted once again.

So, say those nice things you think. Share with others your kind observations, your positive outlooks. And if you don’t have anything to say, share with them your genuine, sunny smile. Sometimes, that is all we need.

 

© Be Nice. Creator and Be Nice. (somethingsonice.wordpress.com), 2008-2009.

Be Nice. is on Facebook

Hi folks!

Be Nice.  has a page on Facebook. Click here to see it. If you want to search for it, it is not a “group” but rather a “page”!  Hope to see it gain some fans!

Cheers!

 

© Be Nice. Creator and Be Nice. (somethingsonice.wordpress.com), 2008-2009.

Bigger… Better….

I like to be nice to everyone that I can. I make a point of getting know the familiar faces in my life. I have a growing rapport with the guy at the gas station, the clerks at the grocery store, the guy at the Wine store, the waiter at my favorite diner, Maria at the bank, Jason our postal carrier, Krystal, Mary and Donnie at the gym, the gals at the fabric store, the staff at the art supply store, Jen at the camera store, and the workers at the post office.

These relationships have been built over time through consistently pleasant exchanges in which I seek to relate to these folks in a way that surpasses a concern with what they can do for me as their customer.  I sincerely ask how their day is, I tell them excitedly about my new projects (to include them in my life/activities), I make chitchat about normal, superficial things. It’s hard to stay indifferent to someone who is upbeat and positive, who is taking a specific interest in relating to you. And typically, I can engage them in a conversation and walk away knowing that perhaps their day is a little less mundane and a little brighter. Mine  is certainly sunnier.

But there’s an added benefit to all this: my world is bigger. My days are  better. All my routine tasks become invigorating experiences. If I am having a bad day, I could run to the store and see one of the workers I know and have a better attitude after talking with them a bit.  

When you reach out positively to others, people are naturally inclined to help you and/or respond nicely in return. When you form mini-relationships with those people that are in the background of your daily routine, the events of the day are more interesting, more rewarding and enjoyable.

 

© Be Nice. Creator and Be Nice. (somethingsonice.wordpress.com), 2008-2009.

Validation

Nothing is better than free parking according to film writer/director Kurt Kuenne. This film short is FANTASTIC (<– click there)!!!  It is a comical, heart-warming tale of a parking validation attendant’s quest to see everyone he meets smile. The actors in this film are nothing short of terrific and the story is wonderful.

This video is worth the watch, and the first four minutes really show what a difference saying nice things can make in a person’s day. Enjoy!

 

© Be Nice. Creator and Be Nice. (somethingsonice.wordpress.com), 2008-2009.

A little motto goes a long way…

When I worked as a front desk associate at a hotel, I loved my job because I was paid to be nice to people. It was so easy! ;P

What I learned is that, in general, people want to have pleasant interactions. People want to be related to. People want to connect.

And in order to connect with others, we have to emulate the kind of energy people will respond to. Basically, treat others as you want to be treated. This little motto really drives it home, I think. Positive comments/actions that we receive are often a result of our initial actions.

 

© Be Nice. Creator and Be Nice. (somethingsonice.wordpress.com), 2008-2009.

Amicable Allegory #3: ER Experience

Nice people do make dubious days better.

My fiance and I were at the ER last Monday (the beginning of a long hospital stay and the second ER trip in four days), and after an hour wait, we were escorted to a bed in the hallway where we were to spend another four hours. 

As we waited for my fiance’s turn to be treated, a registration lady came around to take his information. Her name was Cynthia. I imagine many people in her position would have a lot of stressful days: working in an ER, talking with distraught people who may or may not have health insurance….  But Cynthia was just wonderful. As soon as I smiled at her, she was equally as delightful. We chatted and joked and had a great time while she took in my Fubby’s information. Even after she had finished helping us, we would exchange little jokes when she passed by. When I mentioned that I hadn’t eaten that day, she got me packs of graham crackers and a few cans of juice to tide me over until I could go to the cafeteria. This meant so much to me on a day that held a lot of surprises and unfortunate and unplanned events.

It’s people like Cynthia, who do thoughtful little things to help other people, that make a tremendous difference in a person’s day.

 

© Be Nice. Creator and Be Nice. (somethingsonice.wordpress.com), 2008-2009.