Amicable Allegory #6: Kindness and enthusiasm

The other day I brought some Be Nice. pamphlets and postcards to Stuyvesant Photo while I also picked up some bulbs and batteries. My normal gal, Jen, was out that day, but working behind the counter were two other wonderful employees: Pete and Kim. I asked if I could put my stuff on their table in the entry way and they were thrilled! They loved the materials and got a real kick out of them. Pete said, “Hey! I do some of these things already.” That is something I hope a lot of people will say when they read those pamphlets. In addition to being a gentle reminder of things we can all improve, it is also an acknowledgement of things we do already! Kim went into the back and brought out clear plastic display stands and put the Be Nice. postcard into it so it would be more catchy in the entryway! ¬†He then gave me another for use somewhere else. It was so generous and kind of him!

What was even better was the conversation that grew from that exchange. They were very curious about where I was from (Iowa), and what had brought me to Albany. They had very lively stories about their experiences with courtesy. We spoke about my art work, and Pete had awesome suggestions of resources to check out.

Every day I reach out to talk with other people, I benefit in some way. The principles of being nice and courteous really do make a heap of difference in our daily lives when acted on regularly!



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Amicable Allegory #4: meat market

I had a great series of great days this last weekend. Everyone seemed to be in a pleasant mood. I went shopping for much-needed wardrobe items (something I don’t like to do for sure is shop), and even there I had a great time and was surrounded by lovely people, great conversations and manners, manners, manners! Yay!

What was really great was when I went to the grocery store that evening, and my fiance and I decided to buy some italian sausages from the case for dinner. The woman behind the counter was busy trying to get the meats put away, and I imagined it must have been a long day if she was finally at the end of it. So, when we had told her that we needed something from the case, I asked (smiling as always), “How are you?” and she just lit up and said, “I’m good, thank you!” And after a tiny little exchange of pleasantries, she said, “I sure wish all my customers were as pleasant as you are!”¬†

Isn’t that nice? What a wonderful reward for both of us–a smile for her and¬†me, and we both felt appreciated for something we did!



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Say Nice Things Day

In honor of my new Facebook page for Be Nice., I have created an event called “Say Nice Things Day.” I scheduled it for February 3rd, 2009. I don’t know if there is already an official day for this sort of idea (I’m sure there probably is), but I think this is the kind of thing we should do everyday anyways!

Have you ever thought something nice, but didn’t say it? Perhaps you don’t know the person, or maybe you figure they don’t care. You may have thought they knew it already, or you got in a tiff recently and you didn’t want them to think they won because you said something nice. I figure that I’ve got something to offer in my kind thoughts, and it is the other person’s job to take it or leave it. But either way, I’ve done my job of passing it on, paying it forward. Saying kind words when you think them can make a tremendous difference in a person’s day. They probably didn’t know that they (fill in the blank). Sometimes a kind word manages to come my way right around the time that I was doubting that very thing. And then my confidence is boosted once again.

So, say those nice things you think. Share with others your kind observations, your positive outlooks. And if you don’t have anything to say, share with them your genuine, sunny smile. Sometimes, that is all we need.


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Bigger… Better….

I like to be nice to everyone that I can. I make a point of getting know the familiar faces in my life. I have a growing rapport with the guy at the gas station, the clerks at the grocery store, the guy at the Wine store, the waiter at my favorite diner, Maria at the bank, Jason our postal carrier, Krystal, Mary and Donnie at the gym, the gals at the fabric store, the staff at the art supply store, Jen at the camera store, and the workers at the post office.

These relationships have been built over time through consistently pleasant exchanges in which I seek to relate to these folks¬†in a way that¬†surpasses a concern with¬†what they can do for me as their customer.¬† I¬†sincerely ask how their day is, I tell them excitedly about my new projects (to include them in my life/activities), I make chitchat about normal, superficial things. It’s hard to stay indifferent to someone who is upbeat and positive, who is taking a¬†specific interest in relating to you. And typically, I can engage them in a conversation and walk away knowing that perhaps their day is a little less mundane and a little brighter. Mine¬† is certainly sunnier.

But there’s an added benefit to all this:¬†my world is bigger. My days are¬† better. All my routine tasks become invigorating¬†experiences.¬†If I am having a bad day, I could run to the store and see¬†one of the¬†workers I know and have a better¬†attitude after talking with them a bit.¬†¬†

When you reach out positively to others, people are naturally inclined to help you and/or respond nicely in return. When you form mini-relationships with those people that are in the background of your daily routine, the events of the day are more interesting, more rewarding and enjoyable.


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A little motto goes a long way…

When I worked as a front desk associate at a hotel, I loved my job because I was paid to be nice to people. It was so easy! ;P

What I learned is that, in general, people want to have pleasant interactions. People want to be related to. People want to connect.

And in order to connect with others, we have to emulate the kind of energy people will respond to. Basically, treat others as you want to be treated. This little motto really drives it home, I think. Positive comments/actions that we receive are often a result of our initial actions.


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Amicable Allegory #2: The return of kindness

I just love it when being nice rewards people!

Today was just such a day. Nothing was particularly bad or good about today–it was just one of those days when I had a lot to do on a list that continually gets bigger. My Fubby (future hubby) and I had just left the wake of an good acquaintance and had decided to pick up supper. I had a $10 gift card I was itching to spend. When I was called to the register, I quickly¬†noted that the young woman waiting on me seemed to¬†be in¬†that usual daze from waiting on too many nameless, faceless people. So I asked, smiling at her warmly, “How are you?”¬† A huge smile came across her face and she replied, “I’m good. And you?” I said I was great. Then Jamie (I got her name before I left) said¬† how wonderful it was to have someone cheerful and nice in her line after such a bad day. I said, “I know what you mean. And most people just get weirded out with how friendly I am–it’s nice for someone to appreciate it. In fact, I made an entire blog on the subject of being nice.” She thought that was great, so I offered her my card with the Be Nice. logo on it. She said she needed 300,000 of those to pass out! I was so enthused to have a stranger be so appreciative of being nice!

That is where the reward is: when someone shows appreciation for the little nice things you do! It’s great!!!! And, what was a big surprise: Jamie was so excited by my cheerfulness on a rather tough work day, that she gave us our meal for free. I couldn’t have asked for such a kind gesture, but I was surely grateful.

Jamie is an outstanding example of what kindness can do: when someone greeted her with a smile and a cheerful hello, she noticed it despite her bad day, and returned the kindness with verbal appreciation(and with even greater vigor and generosity).  The free food was just a splendid bonus. The real value came in her genuine response.

I am so grateful and feel very rewarded. It’s people like Jamie who remind me what Be Nice. is all about!


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