Share the road

It was a beautiful day. Sunny sky, sixty degrees in the northeast in November. Gorgeous. I had woken up early and gotten so much work done. Just off to the store for a few odds and ends… dental floss, facial tissues, and shampoo. We parked our car, and should have sensed it then–the frenzy, the cars jetting through the parking lot. But we didn’t.

No, we didn’t get run into while driving. (Had ya guessing though, didn’t I?) But as we walked to the store, two women approached on the same sidewalk. My husband and I naturally moved to single-file walking, and expected the other women to do the same. But they didn’t. They kept walking side by side. I was determined not to surrender the half of the sidewalk to which I was entitled. So I continued walking. But in the game of pedestrian “chicken,” I lost and got my goose cooked. My husband and I were rudely, mindlessly shoved onto the roadway, into traffic. Not cool. 

So for those of you who share the sidewalks like we share the roads (stay to the right, walk single-file with oncoming traffic), right on! And if you don’t, well, do try in the future. It’s an easy courtesy and one that takes almost no effort!

© Be Nice. Creator and Be Nice. (, 2008-2009

Dressing for the occassion

I’m getting married this year to a pretty terrific guy. And the wedding is not your typical white wedding: no white dress, no penguin suit, no bridal party, no church, no diamond ring, no white cake… you get the idea. But when my beloved said he wanted to wear a Tuxedo T-Shirt to our nuptials, I had to say, “Oh, hell no.”

There’s a lot of debate between him and I about dressing up for occasions.  Should someone wear clothes they would otherwise not even have in their closet if they feel like they must, out of respect?  I say yes. He says… NO!  It’s a tricky situation. He wants to be himself. He doesn’t wear dress pants and dress shoes, ties or tucked-in shirts.  And he has more respect for other people (truly) than some others who make the gesture of respect in appearance but don’t act with the same respect through their words and actions. And of course there is the question, what is it going to hurt to put on a dress outfit to show that person you care about their important day or event?  His question is, how is it really hurting that person to let their friend/colleague be himself?

So the question is, do you conform to society’s rules–even if it makes your stomach turn–to show respect?  Or do you be yourself through and through and be respectful in all the other ways that seem to matter the most?


© Be Nice. Creator and Be Nice.(, 2009.

Phones and planes don’t mix, man

I flew to LA today. I’m here right now. It’s sunny, and I like it (compared to the chill of the Northeast). And despite the fact that I am woozy from the cold medicine I’m on and the fact that the pressure in my left ear has not left me in the last six hours, I am going to venture into this post hoping it will make sense. (Cue breath of confidence. And…)

The flight attendant says not to use digital devices like cell phones until further notice. And I look over to my right five hours later and there’s a guy sitting there tapping away at his cell phone. Now yes, we had landed but they hadn’t said to us that these devices were okay since we were still roaming the runways looking for our gate. I mean, come on! I know it might not be harmless, but you never know, especially if 30 other folks have the same idea as this guy. What might this do to the equipment? Are we really this impatient? Wait five minutes!  Show some respect for simple, harmless, in-place-for-a-reason rules!

Okay, I’m done! Cheers!


© Be Nice. Creator and Be Nice. (, 2008-2009.