I was discussing Be Nice. with a number of my colleagues last night, when one of them asked me, “You don’t really think people being nice would end a war, do you?” And I replied, “No, I wouldn’t make such an extreme connection. But I do think that being nice to each other can solve a lot of problems for people [or at least not add anything unnecessary to our existing problems].”
Like this article for example, which states that happiness is contagious: http://news.yahoo.com/s/nm/20081205/hl_nm/us_happiness
It says, the more people around you that are happy, the more likely you will become happier yourself. That is what I think about being courteous and nice. The more people you know and encounter that are nice, the more likely it is that you will feel inclined to pay that niceness forward.
And also, the greater your determination to be nice, the greater likelihood you will encounter kindness–partly because you are so keenly aware of other people’s responses to you throughout your day. Sometimes people are nice to us, but we are so preoccupied that we don’t even realize it. But when our focus is on positive interactions, we notice more and so our efforts are immediately rewarded.
The important thing is to focus on the positive and let go of the negative interactions (because sometimes, people are just having a bad day and have a hard time handling positivity. They deserve compassion too).
So be nice for nice-ness’ sake….
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